The Wisdom of Fear

Anything worth doing is going to have some fear attached.

Think about some of the life changes you’ve experienced that brought up deep worries or concerns.

Having a baby.  Getting married.  Getting divorced.  Changing careers.

Big events invite big emotions. And fear can be the big bow atop the gift that awaits us. Do we dare open it? Or not?

Fear has a way of throwing us off balance.  When we tug at its bow, we get the sense that we are unraveling. It makes us feel uncertain and insecure.

We find ourselves questioning whether we really want the new life that these changes will bring. We may also find ourselves releasing and grieving for the past as a necessary part of moving into the new.  But fear is not meant to discourage us.

So, what is fear’s purpose?  And how do we respond to it?

Its purpose is to notify us that we are at the edge of our comfort zone, where we hang in balance between our old life and a new one.  Fear, in this sense, is not trying to hold us back, but move us forward to our highest expression.

Fear informs us that the change we are facing is significant, and so approach it with the proper reverence.  The more we learn to respect fear and even welcome it, the more we will be able to hear its wisdom. It lets us know that the time has come to move forward–or not.

We may never feel completely comfortable with fear, but we can honor it, recognize it, listen to what it has to say, and respect it as the bringer of transformation for our life.  Sitting quietly in meditation or journaling about your feelings can bring greater understanding of the change you are making and help you to hurdle any inner obstacles.

We can’t open a gift without first untying the bow.  While fear is a strong emotion, it helps to remember that it almost always comes alongside anything worth doing in our lives. When we work with fear rather than against it, we transform it into the gift of courage so that we can move forward to our highest and best self.

 

6 thoughts on “The Wisdom of Fear

  1. Andrea

    Hi Penny. Great post! Absolutely, fear can keep us paralysed and stop us fully embracing whatever experience is in front of us. For me, spending time meditating (or just sitting quietly thinking) about what I’m really fearful of, is enough to make me realise it’s not real. They are mostly imaginary fears and once I recognise what’s really going on, I can let go of the fear. Or feel it and do it anyway! It usually turns out for the best, often in unexpected ways too, the more I let go and trust. The only times things haven’t tended to work out so well have been times when I’ve ignored my gut feeling to not do something, but I don’t see that as fear, more of an internal warning system that I ignore at my peril. Blessings, Andrea

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    1. Penny McDaniel Post author

      Hi Andrea!

      Meditation is a wonderful way of helping us to transform our fears into the energy we need to move forward. Funny, when I think of fear, I think of Toto pulling back the curtain in the Wizard of Oz. Fear is that curtain that when pulled back reveals the truth of the situation. It has no power over us unless we give it that power. Can we get comfortable with fear? I don’t know…but when we recognize it, we can take the appropriate steps to alleviate it so that we can continue moving forward.

      Thank you so much for dropping in and commenting.
      Blessings.
      Penny

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    1. Penny McDaniel Post author

      Hi Roy.

      Fear certainly teaches us to become more discerning. Thank you for stopping by and sharing.
      Blessings.
      Penny

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  2. anonymous

    I’M to not a stranger to FEAR…its what sometimes holds me back…but it also once defeated is the greatest high i have ever experienced. …if their is a person I don’t get along with…and she yelled at me….my fear was to resort back to my knowledge of yelling and screaming back at her…but the fear was if I did that I would loose my job….so my next fear was that I had to compose myself and calm down to talk with her….that was terrifying. …bc the woman doesn’t know how to act…and she only knows to embarrass me ..and others too….I finally found out that she was never taught how to act in cases like this…but yet that’s not my issue…my issue(fear) was to be able to speak with her without ripping her throat out…..and boy was that hard to do…I feared that I would slip back in my old ways and handle it wrongly….but my transformation made me stop and deep breathing….and it made what I fear easier to stand up to this negative energy…and after standing up to her i start to shake n my high is kicking in….more deep breathing…then I’m exhausted. …. but i accomplished standing up to her….and here is the question again n…is it my issue she doesn’t know how act..hell no….no one taught her…here is the last thought to leave you…Maya Angelo said..WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER YOU DO BETTER…amen to that…I’M doing tons better….god bless ya…

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    1. Penny McDaniel Post author

      Anonymous, when we understand that we are not responsible for another person’s behavior and that his or her issue is not our issue, it frees us to see the person in a different light, as you have experienced. We can choose how we will behave in the situation. We are responsible for our own actions. Keep up the good work.
      Blessings.
      Penny

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