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Are You Taking Responsibility?

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Responsibility.   It’s a word that many people throw around loosely, yet don’t want to claim for themselves.  And then they wonder why things aren’t working out in their lives.

Success in life, especially achieving those things that are most important, depends on you, and you alone.

When we take full responsibility for our lives, suddenly things seem to fall into place.  Notice I said “full.” Not half.  Full.

This doesn’t mean doing things half-assed. It means getting off your duff and doing something about something, not sitting idly back wishing for things to fall into your lap.  It means being proactive.

Nothing gets done until you take action.  The house isn’t going to clean itself (unless you have a maid, but even then you have to get off your butt to hire one).  The bills aren’t going to pay themselves.  Those extra 15 pounds you put on over the winter aren’t going to melt off of you any time soon. Something has to be done, and only you can do something about it.

We have been blessed with the ability to choose how we respond to events that occur in life.

The question is, how are YOU responding to the events in your life???

Events in and of themselves have no meaning, until we apply meaning to them; that is, until we respond in a way that gives meaning to them.

Those of the victim mindset will react, complain, cry, wail and dramatize the event out of proportion, making others feel sorry for them.

Those of the creator mindset will take proactive measures and turn the event around to their advantage. They will learn from it, grow from it, and even offer gratitude for it.

Want to lose that extra weight?  Take responsibility.

Want to pay down your debts?  Take responsibility.

Want to find that dream job?  Take responsibility.

When you take full responsibility, you will create better outcomes by consciously choosing your responses to the things that happen in your life.

Take responsibility.  Today.

4 Steps To Managing Your Personal Energy

Managing our personal energy is our job, not anyone else’s. We are responsible for everything that we think, say, and do. There’s no way around it. And as much as we’d like to blame our stress on someone or something else, we must come to terms with the reality that we alone have invited that stress into our lives. We somehow agreed to it, either consciously or unconsciously.

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When we live our lives on auto-pilot, we get lazy. We say yes when we mean no.  We say no when we mean yes. We act without thinking. We think without acting. We don’t set healthy boundaries. We take things for granted. Suddenly two plus two equals seventeen, and we are left reeling under the pressure we’ve placed upon ourselves…all because we weren’t mindful.

When we learn to manage our personal energy, we reclaim our power and our lives. Here’s how:

Create a list of things that give you energy. All too often we engage in activities that deplete our energy. The focus here is to embrace activities that increase your energy and make you feel better. Take a walk, call a loved one, sing, meditate. It could be anything. These little things will feel like luxuries.  Keep your list available so that you can refer to it whenever you begin feeling overwhelmed.

Chunk your time into manageable segments. Rearrange your day so that you are working in blocks of time, not straight through. After every 90 to 120 minutes, take a break and do something from your list of energy-boosting activities. This allows you to relax and recover, and it gives the brain a much-needed break so that it can recuperate.

Practice mindfulness. Stay focused on one activity at a time. This means NO multitasking during your breaks since your breaks are meant for your energy-building activities.

Set healthy boundaries. Say no when you mean no. Say yes when you mean yes. Don’t agree to added responsibility if you can’t devote the time and energy. Think carefully about taking on additional tasks. Having no boundaries leaves one open to exploitation. Assert yourself if you must, but do so respectfully.

We can counteract the effects of stress by consciously making decisions and performing activities that energize us.  When we feel good, we perform better.  And in so doing, the structure of our brain actually changes; new neural pathways form as we continually take in good things, making it easier to feel good in the future.

Spiritual Growing Pains: Tell-Tale Signs

When we awaken spiritually, a subtle yet powerful shift occurs. Like a newborn, we crave spiritual nourishment so that we can grow and evolve. Just as we experience the physical growing pains of childhood, we experience the metaphysical growing pains of spirithood.

As we grow, we find ourselves expanding beyond people, places, and ideas that have been familiar and comfortable. These can be challenging times, especially when those around us make judgments about our new state of being and our new-found, ever-evolving approach to life situations. Some may even choose not to support us in our decisions and transformation.

This does not mean anything is wrong with you. Nor does it mean that there is anything wrong with those who no longer wish to support your growth. We each grow and learn at different rates, and as much as we’d like to take others with us on our journey, sometimes we must accept that in moving on we may have to leave others behind.

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And therein lies the spiritual pain. As much as we want to remain, we know we can’t. Yet we push forward because we know the pain would be that much greater in remaining than in answering the call of Higher Self. No pill can palliate the pain. Why? Because the point of spiritual pain is not to get rid of it, but to embrace it and integrate it, so that we can grow through it. We can certainly channel this energy through various spiritual practices (prayer, meditation, chanting, ritual cleansing, acts of atonement, yoga, etc.) that will bring clarity, direction, and peace of mind.

Here are some tell-tale signs of spiritual growing pains:

Restlessness. Spirit wants to move and create; the ego wants to lounge and stick with the status quo. You’ll want to “do new things” even if you don’t know what those things are…yet. Your sleep patterns may be affected. You get the strong feeling that there’s something more to life, and you begin to develop a determination to find out what it is. You realize that the material world cannot fulfill this longing.

Restriction. Spirit moves in freedom; the ego remains within safe confines. You may be feeling the constraints of a job or a relationship that no longer serves you. In fact, the situation feels inhibiting and contracting rather than expanding. You want to break free from restrictive patterns, toxic people, and life-draining jobs, and you begin to do so.

Brain-fog. Spirit is suprarational; the ego refuses to budge beyond the rational. Things that you thought made sense no longer make sense. And things that never made sense before suddenly make sense. Normally, the left hemisphere of the brain (which likes to organize, compartmentalize, analyze, evaluate, synthesize, and problem-solve) dominates the often less-valued right side of the brain. You may be experiencing psychic ability, intuitive knowing, feeling, compassion, and other right hemisphere activities that contradict those of the left side of the brain. You may also be experiencing a feeling of spaciness, minor memory lapses, scattered thinking, mild dizziness, and a general fogginess as you try to find balance. You feel drawn to creative activities of expression and to the sensate. There’s no explaining it; it’s an inner knowing. As you allow your heart and your right brain to lead you, the left will activate appropriately to support you, and that “fog” will lift.

Of course, seek medical help if these symptoms persist. If you’ve determined that it is not a medical condition, then simply relax in the realization that what you are experiencing is temporary.

As Spirit evolves, ego devolves. Spiritual growing pains are part of our journey. Recognizing, embracing, and channeling them will give us the confidence and strength to move through them.

Time For A Cosmic Reset?

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We forget that we have choices.

We forget that our current reality exists because of our choices.

We forget that we are the creators of our current reality.

We forget that we are in charge of our own happiness.

There are laws that rule the Universe.

We forget that these laws are in place to help us fulfill our destiny, to help us be the highest expression of ourselves.

We don’t have to do anything to activate these laws. These laws are always working in our lives.

Where are you focusing your attention lately?

Is it focused predominately on thoughts of lack or resistance, or abundance and flow? It is an energetic law of the Universe that like attracts like. Whatever thought (vibration) we hold within mind magnetically draws more of the same to us.

Time for a cosmic reset.

Remember:

1) Everything is energy.

2) Energy follows thought.

3) Your dominant thought (focus, vibration) brings you more of the same.

Change your thinking and you change the direction of your energy.

Your choices put you in the creator’s seat. Become aware of your choices. Better choices bring better results, and better results make for a better reality.

It’s clearly up to you.

Create A Self-Care Practice

Self-care is NOT selfish.

Making yourself a priority in your own life does NOT mean that you don’t care for your loved ones.

Without self-care, life will overwhelm us. We’ll grow frustrated, depleted, even bitter. Our energy plummets. Our weight skyrockets. We compromise our immune systems and invite all kinds of ailments into our bodies and minds. Our relationships suffer. We find ourselves ill-tempered and uninspired. We lose our confidence. Before we know it, a spiritual cancer has set in.

Self-care will combat this.

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Creating a self-care practice will bring you back to YOU.

How?

Re-prioritize. It’s time to drop back and punt. Resolve to reevaluate your priorities. Put yourself at the top of your priority list. You can’t be number one outside until you are number one inside.

Reconnect with yourself. Ask, “What makes me happy, and what can I do to be the best version of myself?” Take a self-inventory, and then take action!

Retreat to nature. Take in and appreciate the beauty and stillness of nature. Immerse yourself in its restorative power. Open yourself to the lessons nature has to teach.

Rekindle your relationship with spirit. Meditate. Pray. Contemplate. Journal your thoughts and feelings. Recommit yourself to spiritual work.

Refuel your body. Re-energize it by getting enough rest, nourishing yourself with healthy foods, and finding fitness you enjoy.

Redecorate your mind. Renew your thinking through positive affirmations and self-talk. Rip down those dismal drapes of doom and let in the light. Clear out the cobwebs of negativity that have slowed or stalled your progress. Release any thoughts that no longer serve you or the highest good.

Recruit support. Hold yourself accountable. Enlist the help of loved ones, friends, or a coach to help you get your life back in control.

Creating an effective self-care practice is about redesigning your life physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The more you give to yourself, the more you give to your loved ones.

Take care of YOU. You are the only YOU you’ve got.