“Energy is contagious: either you affect people or you infect people,” says T. Harv Eker.
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The distance between your dreams and reality is called action.
We all have our dreams.
We all have our realities.
But for the most part, those dreams remain dreams…until we act toward them.
So, why is it so hard for some people to act?
Motivational speaker Tony Robbins will tell you it’s because of fear and certainty. Fear, whether it’s the fear of failure or the fear of being ridiculed, is paralyzing. Certainty that a goal is unattainable or impossible is another factor that keeps people from taking action.
It all comes down to YOU.
You can have the best intentions in the world. But if you don’t back up those intentions with action — inspired action — then you are reinforcing a belief that your goals are not possible.
Let’s say you want to run in a marathon. Announcing that you will run in one is a start, but if you don’t train for it on a daily basis, you’ll never qualify to enter. So, what can you do? You take action by researching and finding a training program, following it, talking and training with those who have run marathons, and visualizing yourself crossing the finish line. Each time you train, you are reinforcing the belief that you can run in one.
What does it take to act?
1. Believe in your potential. We are designed with unlimited potential. The amount of action you take depends upon the amount of potential into which you tap, and it determines the results you get. The results you get reinforce the beliefs you have. Believing that you have limited potential is going to bring limited results. Likewise, believing that you can tap into an unlimited reservoir of potential is going to bring bigger results. If you don’t believe you can reach a certain goal, then you won’t tap into your full potential; this affects the amount of action you will take. Ask yourself what beliefs you have about your own potential.
2. Condition your mind muscles. You want to create an environment inside your head that is conducive to achieving peak performance. This starts with your self-talk. Whenever you say something to yourself, your mind tries to build a case for it. Our words have the power to condition the mind to succeed or to fail.
3. Visualize the desired outcome as if you’ve already achieved it. Successful people will tell you that a big part of their success comes from visualizing the outcome. The more they visualize, the more energy they give toward its manifestation. Creating a vision board and displaying it in a prominent place is one way to keep your mind focused on achieving your dreams and goals.
4. Surround yourself with successful, positive people. Learn from and mimic the action steps they’ve taken. Being around their energy naturally elevates our own, inspiring us to move forward. They become our guides and mentors.
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Turning your dreams into reality starts with you.
Now is the time to act.
Not next week.
Not next year.
Not when the kids leave for college.
Not when you retire.
What are you waiting for?
“When we move in love, we can move mountains,” says fellow blogger Suzy.
Whatever “mountains” we may be facing in our lives, we can overcome them.
Facing a “mountain” in your own life?
Staring at it won’t move it.
Ignoring it won’t move it.
Cursing at it won’t move it.
Taking action will. Fearing it will only make it grow bigger, making it even more of a challenge to overcome. And the sooner you act, the better. You can stare, ignore, and curse all you want, but until you take some kind of step toward removing it, it will loom over you indefinitely, haunting you like some specter.
Mountains give the illusion that they are large as they cast their dark shadows over us. We are so busy cringing in fear that we fail to see the possibilities. We see only impossibility.
But no mountain is too large. Confucius said moving a mountain begins by carrying small stones. In other words, start by taking small steps. Approach it systematically, not fearfully. Break it down into manageable units so as not to overwhelm yourself.
Understand your part in creating it. If you are facing a mountain of debt, examine the actions you took to build it.
Understand your part in dismantling it. After you examine the actions (and beliefs) it took to grow that particular mountain, it’s time to take responsibility by reversing those actions. Own them and move forward by changing your perspective from one of fear to one of acceptance. Becoming aware of past actions will help you to avoid repeating them in the future.
The most loving thing you can do is to take action. With each step you take, that mountain begins to disappear, until you are back on top of the world.
What “mountains” are you facing in your own life? And what steps are you taking to overcome them?
Some of my best conversations are with myself.
Sure, “we” have our differences at times, but they always resolve themselves after more thought and discussion.
When I talk with myself, I am my own cheerleader, and sometimes (rarely) I am my own worst critic.
But for the most part, I practice positive self-talk.
Practicing self-talk does not mean you are losing your mind. We all talk to ourselves, if not verbally, in our own heads.
There are two types of thinking: positive and negative. These are our only two choices. And the beauty (and simplicity) of this is that we get to choose. No one else does our thinking for us; if they do, then we are nothing more than their puppets or slaves.
If you’re a glass-is-half-full kind of person, you know that positive thinking (self-talk) reduces stress and allows you to live a much happier, fulfilling, healthier life. But if you subscribe to the half-empty style of thinking, don’t despair; you can learn positive thinking skills.
We generate between 12,000 – 60,000 thoughts per day (depending on the depth of our thinking), according the National Science Foundation, and about 80% are negative. Whoa! That’s A LOT of thoughts. And if a high percentage of those thoughts is considered negative, how sad! That’s like having a full-time bully in your head.
But fear not. Here’s how to take control.
1. Practice awareness. Become aware of your type of thinking. Root yourself in the moment and examine the kinds of thoughts you are having. Once you have awareness, you have control.
2. Identify areas in your life that need a positive change. Examine those areas about which you tend to think negatively. Start with one small area and approach it with a more positive mindset.
3. Visualize yourself as a magnet or a radio station attracting a signal. We are what we think. The more energy you give to a thought, whether positive or negative, the more likely it will materialize in your life, just as you’ve imagined it. Become conscious of the kinds of things you are attracting into your life.
4. Do mental check-ins. Periodically during the day, evaluate the kinds of thoughts you are thinking. For each negative thought, replace it with a positive one. Strive to put a positive spin on each one. Be your own personal cheerleader.
5. Surround yourself with positive-minded people. Being in the company of positive and supportive people encourages us to become more optimistic. These are the people whom you can trust for advice and feedback. They alleviate our stress; whereas, negative people may increase our stress levels, making us doubt our ability to handle stress in healthy ways.
6. Lead a healthy lifestyle. A change in diet while adding exercise to your daily routine affects mood and greatly reduces stress. This helps to fuel your mind and body in healthy ways to reduce stress. When we feel healthier, we feel better about ourselves and our lives.
7. Seek humor in everything. Give yourself permission to laugh, even during difficult or challenging times. Humor helps us to maintain our sanity.
Practicing these tools will help you to find and maintain balance and peace of mind. The bully in our brain will back down each time you throw punches of positivity. You’ll be surprised at how much control you really have.
How are your inner conversations? What other tips can you share?
For those of us on the spiritual path, personal growth is a must. We may not like it at times, but as fire purifies gold, we emerge as stronger and better people. Personal growth becomes a priority because it allows us to bloom into our authentic selves. The more authentically we live our lives, the happier we will be with ourselves, with our relationships, and with our surroundings.
Socrates said the unexamined life is not worth living. When we take the time to examine ourselves ontologically, we realize we are part of something much larger than ourselves. If we are to find meaning in our lives, we must examine who we are in relationship to this larger existence. Life is what we make of it; we are active participants in the creation of our lives.
If we are to experience change in our outward lives, we need to examine our inward lives. Going inward is not a selfish act; it is a sacred act, no matter what your spiritual inclination or belief system is. Whether you practice a spirituality that is atheistic, agnostic, religious, secular, or theological, going inward opens doors to the expansion of our overall consciousness and awareness about our place and purpose in the world.
Here are seven benefits of going inward.
1. Self-awareness and self-knowledge. As we examine our inner world, we come to know our thoughts and feelings, needs and wants, hopes and fears, strengths and limitations, and gifts and talents. We come to know our personality; we develop an identity unique to us.
2. Inner strength and resilience. Life will throw some challenging and difficult times at us. How we handle them will determine the outcomes. Going inward helps us to tap into our innate wisdom. Here we find the guidance to help us respond creatively to difficult and challenging situations, turning crisis or tragedy into an opportunity to bring about change.
3. Love and relationships. As cliche as it sounds, love is the energy that makes the world go ’round. Without it, nothing grows, and relationships can not survive. Love allows us to value ourselves and one another. It allows us to grasp another’s personal world as if it were our own. It teaches compassion and motivates us to display goodwill toward others.
4. Sensitivity and responsiveness. As we come to understand ourselves, we grow in our understanding of other’s needs and wants. We realize the importance of keeping our word. Our lives become filled with gratitude and appreciation. Music, art, and literature move us to deep emotion, reflection, and/or action, as does poverty, innocent suffering, and injustice.
5. Ideals and aspirations. As we get in touch with ourselves, our dreams, goals and visions make themselves known. Our creativity unleashes itself as we pursue those dreams. We come to know the depth of our beliefs and values, and use them as a compass for our future.
6. Seeking and striving. As we discover our connection to a bigger reality, we seek to be the best we can be. We seek meaning in our experiences and allow that meaning to influence our lives.
7. Reflection on your experiences. Reflecting on our experiences, choices, attitudes, values, and beliefs gives us perspective and provides a platform for moving forward in our lives. It allows us to make adjustments when needed and gives us the confidence to improve ourselves.
Traveling the spiritual path calls for authentic living. Living authentically requires going inward on a daily basis, be it through prayer, meditation, contemplation, journaling, or any other method that helps us find our center. The more we know ourselves, the more authentic our lives will be.
Thoughts? Please feel free to share below.
I’m taking part in the Write Tribe Festival of Words 1st – 7th September 2013.
I love spending time with generous people. There’s a magic and a charisma about them that can’t be denied. Their energy elevates my own, inspiring my own generosity.
In talking with them about generosity, I’ve found that they share seven important traits.
1. Generous people care about the welfare of others. Their altruism is genuine, stemming from their love for others.
2. Generous people give to give; they don’t give to get. They give without expectation. Personal gain is not a motivating factor.
3. Generous people are optimistic. They view the world through a positive lens. Even though we live in an imperfect world, this doesn’t stop generous people from giving their time, energy, or money. They believe in making a difference, no matter what.
4. Generous people share the quality of trust. Their giving is an investment in happiness for all involved. If they are giving to a cause, they trust that it is a worthy one. If they give to others, they trust those people to use those gifts wisely.
5. Generous people are energetic. Their passion for doing good energizes and revitalizes them to do even more good.
6. Generous people are satisfied with what they have. They don’t complain or feel that they are lacking. Instead, they see the universe as abundant. They view what they have as enough and feel compelled to share it. They also practice gratitude and hold a high appreciation for their circumstances.
7. Generous people are humble. They are not ego-driven people who are out to impress others, and they don’t give to buy someone’s love or loyalty. They operate from a “give forward, not back” philosophy, with no strings attached.
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There are a couple of “downsides” to being generous. Because generous people tend to see the best in people, they could be misconstrued as naive, and if they are not careful, they can open themselves up to being taken advantage of by those who are unscrupulous.
Some generous people may give to a fault. When this happens, they endanger their own welfare. They may find it difficult to say no and may overextend themselves. This could hurt their relationships if they do not find balance. It’s important to exercise caution at times.
Generous people are gifts in themselves. They make the world a better place. They give others a sense of importance through their acts of love and kindness, and they certainly help to restore faith in humanity.
What act of generosity have you experienced? What are other traits of generous people? Your comments are always welcome.
In yesterday’s blog, I wrote about receiving generosity. I summed it up by saying that generosity is more than just a decision; it’s a lifestyle, especially when we approach it without any fear, without any thoughts of unworthiness, and without any reluctance. It is a spiritual quality.
Most people want to be generous. It’s in our nature.
A truly giving person does so out of desire, not out of duty. Gifts of duty are ego-based and are not of the heart; they are conditional and subject to entitlement. The generous person never expects anything in return; they give because they believe in investing in someone’s happiness.
How can you become a more generous person? Let me count the ways…
- Set the intention to be generous. Make the conscious choice to be generous on a daily basis.
- Start small. One does not have to be wealthy to be generous. And one does not always have to give money to be generous. You can be generous by giving things you can make. You can also volunteer your time, your compassion, or your expertise in a certain field.
- Notice the things you could do to make someone else’s life a little easier and happier. Develop an awareness of what other’s may need.
- Think of specific ways in which you can help the people you know, and then do them without expectation. Be sure to tell them to give forward, not back.
- Let your generosity branch out to strangers. Hold open that door at the store. Pay the toll for the person behind you. Compliment someone you don’t know.
- Serve a cause that is greater than your own life. You can help fund it, or you can offer your time and energy.
- Let your gratitude lead to generosity. Be grateful for the things you have. As you experience generosity in your own life, you’ll find yourself becoming more generous to others.
Life is most generous.
When you stop to think about all that you have and all that is available to you, you realize how bountiful life truly is.
Look around at all the things you have. Consider all the hard work that went into creating these things — your favorite chair in which you sit, the computer you use to communicate with others, the cup in which you enjoy your morning coffee or tea, the fountain that flows continuously in your garden, the wind chimes that sing in the breeze, the novel that you are reading or the music to which you are singing or listening — all of these things were created for your comfort, convenience, and/or enjoyment. They were created for you.
Consider the natural world and what it gives — a cool breeze on a hot day, the invigorating scent of a pine forest, the hypnotic sound of rain, the vividness of a rainbow after a storm, the sweet taste of wild berries you picked on your hike — all designed for you in that particular moment, and all designed to keep the circle of giving going.
From the beauty of nature to the inventions of mankind that make our lives easier to the kindness we receive from others, life gives to each one of us in so many ways. Life’s generosity pulls us in, allowing us to connect more deeply with it, thus making it a sacred adventure.
The magic of generosity is that it invites us to become more generous. The more we receive and accept openly, the more we want to give in return. Generosity, as defined, is freely sharing what we have with others without expectation of reward or return. When we give, we reap the pleasure of knowing we made someone else’s life a little happier.
How do you receive the things life gives you through nature or through others’ contributions? Do you accept openly? Or do you pull back in trepidation?
Some people have a difficult time receiving generosity. Here are seven ways to receive it:
- Let go of reluctance. Any sign of reluctance is letting you know that there is a deeper issue when it comes to accepting generosity. Were you taken advantage of in the past because of your generosity? Were you expecting something in return and didn’t get it? Become aware of the issue, work through it, and then let it go.
- Let go of thoughts of unworthiness. Feeling unworthy is a surefire way to push away what you deserve to have. Know that you are worthy and deserving. You were given the gift of life, were you not? Treat yourself as the gift that you are.
- Let go of the fear of dependence. Accepting a gift doesn’t make you dependent. Instead, let it motivate you toward a feeling of freedom.
- Let go of the idea that if you receive, then you’ll be obligated to the other person. A truly generous person doesn’t expect anything in return; instead, s/he sees it as investing in your happiness.
- Practice openly receiving everyday gifts. Start small. When you awake in the morning, instead of blindly pouring yourself a cup of coffee or tea and taking it for granted, contemplate what went into bringing that beverage to your table.
- Be open to the feeling of being given to. The pleasure of receiving elevates our mood making us feel happier in the process. “Happy hormones” such as serotonin (it’s actually a neurotransmitter) release into the bloodstream thus increasing our mood; without it, depression sets in. When we open ourselves to seeing all things as gifts and receiving them as gifts, we increase our serotonin levels and our happiness.
- See the Universe’s resource pie as unlimited in its servings. The Universe is always open for the business of giving. All we have to do is ask and give our thanks.
To keep growing on our spiritual path, we must continually do the things that sustain us.