A good friend of mine is going through the most spiritually transforming time of her life. With the blinders gone, she is seeing life from a whole new perspective. While it has been painful for her at times, she is grateful for the journey.
The hardest thing through which she has been working is dismantling the “lies” told to her by others about herself, all of which she believed to be true. Such lies crippled her in almost every area of her life. However, she has taken responsibility for her part in allowing other people’s words to control her, freeing herself from this trap.
Behold the power of words. They can build you up, or they can take you down.
Lies are words used to deceive, control, and ultimately destroy us. They hold us spellbound.
In my friend’s case, she was repeatedly told many lies:
“You’re not worthy of love.”
“You are not enough.
“You don’t deserve happiness.”
“You are not unique or special.”
“You don’t deserve wealth.”
The list goes on.
She had allowed such words to blind her from her own amazing opportunities; these words bruised her self-esteem, crushed her self-confidence, and left her searching for what she needed outside of herself instead of searching within. Her inner critic — the ego, the lower self, the “devil,” call it what you will — got the best of her. She knew she had to take matters into her own hands if she were to survive.
What did my friend do to break such a spell?
She took back her identity. For the longest time she allowed other people and situations to define her. She came to know herself as a spiritual being rather than as a puppet at the hands of others.
She took control of her thoughts. She faced the lies head-on and saw them for what they were. She learned that whatever controls the mind controls life since thoughts lead to our chosen attitudes and actions. She stopped listening to the lies of others, and began believing in herself and in her abilities.
She discovered her gifts. She stopped comparing herself to others, and realized that she has gifts that others do not. Her uniqueness became apparent to herself.
She replaced lies with life-affirming words. She chose words to build her self-esteem and self-confidence and began repeating them to herself often, and it now shows in her actions and how she carries herself. She sets her intentions on a daily basis so that she can live a purposeful and mindful life.
She released toxic people from her life. She cut emotional attachments that were not serving her highest good. She came to understand that though the toxic people in her life weren’t inherently bad, they weren’t right for her, so she let them go. She made her well-being a priority and created a safer space for herself.
She began studying Universal Laws. She learned about the role that universal laws play in our lives and began to apply them. She understood the role she played and now plays in attracting people and events into her life.
She took responsibility for her past actions. She didn’t realize how she had been hurting herself by allowing others to control her with their thoughts and behavior. She forgave herself for giving up her power to them. And she released their hold on her by forgiving them as well.
It’s been quite a journey for her as she will attest. Words that once served to curse her to her own inner prison also freed her to discover how worthy and deserving she really is.