When I was a kid, whenever I said anything unkind or unsavory (who, me? cuss?), my mother would wash my mouth out with soap.
“If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all, young lady!” were her famous words.
My mother went through a lot of soap in those years.
She made me realize that my words, my sentences, and the language in my mind and in my conversations had power. I had some thinking to do.
I could use my mind language and words to hurt others, including myself. Or, I could use them to help and heal others, including myself.
I learned that they played a very big role in creating my future.
Our words and thoughts will either limit us or expand us.
We can speak as if we are in charge or as if we are victims of circumstance. We can speak in the language of creation or in the language of reaction.
The language of creation is like this: “I choose…,” “I intend…,” and “I will…,” while the language of reaction says, “What should I do?” or “I don’t know what to do.”
It’s going from an “I don’t know how to” mentality to an “I want to” attitude and that’s because desire is not a fixed state. It is fluid and dynamic, ever-burning within us, making us burst at the seams as we expand our consciousness and awareness in the creative process.
So, if you want to transform your life, watch your language. Carefully choose what you say and think.
Awaken to your status as creator, not victim.
As creator and owner of your life, focus your energy on creating what you want by using language that builds your future, not on wasting your energy with language that describes (and keeps you in) the past.
As you commit to creating, you’ll sentence yourself to a life of goodness.
Pay attention to the words that come out of your mouth today. Are they kind and loving, or harmful and hateful? If you find yourself thinking for saying unkind things, correct them by turning them into kinder, more positive words (or you can wash your mouth out with soap, but I wouldn’t recommend that!).
If you want to spread some good cheer and lift people, compliment them. When you do this, you will find that you will receive a surge of creative energy, too. Make sure the compliments are sincere. If someone is facing a challenge, encourage him or her. Use your words to inspire others. Give as many as you can in the course of the day, and if you’re feeling really daring, continue this exercise the rest of the week or longer.
People love compliments because it makes them feel good about themselves. As a teacher, I made it a point to always find something encouraging to say about students’ papers, even if the paper needed improvement or a do-over. If for some reason I forgot to put my signature smiley faces on their work, they would let me know about it in an instant! Give away smiles today and see what happens.
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