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Scratching That Spiritual Itch


The reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.

That’s a tidy definition.
And it’s a loaded one.
There is a reason why we want what we want.
But how many of us actually take the time to actually investigate it?
We all long to make a difference. Some of us actually do go out and make a difference. But many of us don’t. 
Sadly, those who don’t have been lured into thinking that the purpose of life equals holding power, acquiring status, accumulation of wealth, and possessing as many material things as possible. 
And when they finally achieve those things, they still feel that something is missing. There’s that little void inside that just can’t seem to be filled.
It’s the itch that’s in that hard-to-scratch spot…close enough to be just out of the way.
Our purpose has nothing to do with our outward life. It has everything to do with our inward life.
It’s about discovering who we really are and living authentically, not by society’s or someone else’s definition of who we should be.
As Jack Canfield, author of the Chicken Soup For The Soul series, says, “All we have to do is step up and do it,” when it comes to claiming and living our purpose.
Success is not limited to the list of boxes that society expects us to check: education, marriage, kids, career, retirement.
That’s conformity, not purpose.
To live with purpose means to be connected to purpose. It means living from the inside out, not the outside in. 
It means living a spiritually-based life, rather than an ego-centered one. 
It means letting your life speak to you, rather than forcing it in the direction the ego demands. It’s about listening to an inner calling, not an outer one.
Your purpose is seeking you as much as you are seeking it. Only when we remove ourselves from the distractions of the world do we hear it. Embracing and valuing silence will allow you to connect. Without silence, you will fall prey to your ego, believing that it (and all that it wants) is your purpose. Silence creates the space for authenticity to bubble to the surface.
To discover your purpose, be open to the non-logical. Purpose lies beyond all logic and reason. Get comfortable with emotion, intuition, sensitivities, and impulses. Get accustomed to not having all the answers, but trust that the universe will provide them when you are ready to hear them. 
Your purpose is not static. It is as fluid and dynamic as the Spirit that created you. Your purpose may change over time; it evolves as you evolve, as you grow and learn. 
Your purpose is yours for the taking. Discover it. Claim it. Value it. Do it. 
Ready to scratch that itch? Remove yourself from the day’s distractions. Turn off the TV, the radio, your phone and anything else that makes noise. Take the day off. Send your spouse or partner to work with a kiss. Hugs the kids as they head out to school or to their favorite aunt or uncle for the day. 
Ask for spiritual direction either through prayer or meditation, then begin a self-inventory. What are your likes and dislikes? When you were a child, what did you want to be when your grew up? Why? Ask, Am I happy and fulfilled? If you could be doing something else, what would it be? Why? What do you love to do? What steps can you take to begin the process of change? Let the silence speak to you. Your heart knows what it wants. Your answers will be revealed by how your heart feels, not what your mind thinks. 
When you’re finished, create a new “business card” for yourself. Instead of a job title, write your purpose in 3 to 4 words only. Mine says Director for Spiritual Living. 
On the back, write out an affirmation, draw a special or personal symbol, or a short prayer about your purpose. Mine says, “My purpose is to help others grow spiritually.”
Next, craft a spiritual resumé based on your self-inventory. Be sure to include your objective and the life experiences that “qualify” you for your new purpose in life. 
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Hungry For Meaning

I have a huge appetite for meaning.

It’s darn near insatiable.

Being a connoisseur of the commonplace, I observe and study things on a daily basis to extract whatever meaning I can to satisfy my spiritual yearnings and curiosities.

Without meaning, life is boring and bland. It’s not sweet; it’s not sour. It’s just flat.


Many people define spirituality as the search for meaning and purpose. For the most part, it is. But it’s also a very specific practice. And like any practice, it can be cultivated and applied. We do this through seeking and making meaning for ourselves.

But meaning isn’t ready-made. It doesn’t come in a gift-wrapped box or on a silver platter. We’ve got to work at finding it and creating it. We’ve got to embrace and delve into the experience of it.

The meaning is there, waiting to be uncovered like a precious gem.

And if we do it with active love, attention, and openness, we realize that this meaning is deeply personal and sacred only to us. The meaning that I discover or create from an experience or an encounter will not be the same for another, though they may be similar.

Meaning, and our spirituality, as I’ve come to understand it, is individualized and personalized, tailored specifically to our experiences. We grow toward it and into it. It becomes part of our sacred blueprint.

Our place in the bigger scheme of things may not be readily apparent, but as we find and create meaning, we eventually come to understand who we are and why we are here.

To everything there is a purpose.

That’s something to bite into.


Take in a movie or read a new book. Before viewing or reading it, say a blessing, and thank Spirit for the message or lesson you are about to receive that will contribute to your spiritual growth and understanding. Identify with the characters and see how their experiences compare with your own. Allow their experiences to act as a spiritual facilitator for you. Wrestle with it, write about it, discuss it with yourself or with someone who knows you intimately. Ask Spirit to show you how to apply this newfound meaning to your life.

One movie in particular that impacted me greatly was Pay It Forward. 11-year-old Trevor is challenged by his social studies teacher to think of a practical way to make the world a better place, and to put it into action. When he comes up with the idea of ‘Pay It Forward’ — doing a favor for three people in need, and asking them to pay the favor forward by doing favors for three other people — Trevor sparks a movement of good deeds, touching the lives of hundreds of people, if not more.

While this was not a Hollywood blockbuster, the theme of the movie struck a chord with many people, including me, who didn’t leave the lesson in the theater with their empty popcorn containers; instead, we put it into practice and began changing the lives of others through our random acts of kindness and unconditional love.

I recalled times when I received random generosity from strangers, and in some cases generosity that was nothing short of a miracle. I knew it was the Spirit at work, and I vowed then and there to pick up where the movie left off.

As human beings, we are all hungry for meaningful experiences in our lives. We want our lives to matter, to mean something to us and to others. That yearning for meaning stems from the sacredness within that wants to connect with us as much as we want to connect with it. Only when we actively love ourselves, others, nature, and the Universe will we discover meaning in our everyday experiences.

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Introduction to 31 Days of Spiritual Growth – Here you will be able to link to each post in the series.

Do You Know Your Ancestry?

Life is in the air! 
That’s means love is in the air, too. 
You can’t have one without the other. 
The Universe is in the business of creating, and the whole business of creation comes from the energy of love.
Look at your existence. Where do you think you came from? You didn’t just spring from your mother’s loins. Yes, biologically, you were created when egg and sperm met and merged. But your existence is more than a biological event. Much, much more.

Let’s go through an interesting exercise. A part of you came from your mother, and a part of you came from your father. This means you existed in both of your parents before you were physically born. You existed in a different energy form in two different people.

Let’s take this a step further. Before you were born and before your parents were born, you and your parents existed in your parents’ parents (your grandparents to you).

Going further, before you were born, before your parents were born and before your grandparents were born, all of you existed inside your great-grandparents. See where this is going? And if you do the math, you have two parents, four grandparents, eight great-grandparents, sixteen great-great grandparents, thirty-two great-great-great grandparents, sixty-four great-great-great-great grandparents, and so on. That’s a lot of great-greats in your family tree, isn’t it?

Now, let this blow your mind. Consider all of your (ready?) great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great (yes, that’s 25 “greats”) grandparents. If you do the math, that’s 134,227,728 of them. Before you were born you were “scattered” energy, inside all of your ancestors. A piece of you existed in each one of them. All of this has filtered down to you. Pretty amazing stuff.

The Universe created all of those people in order to create you at this point in time. You’ve existed all this time through other beings. You came through all of those ancestors just to be here today. You are not some random biological event. The Universe had you in mind since the beginning, long before your physical incarnation. If the Universe didn’t love you, you would have never existed in the first place.

That’s a whole lot of loving that’s been done in your name. Wow. Mind definitely blown.


Got Purpose?

If we are to manifest what we want into our lives, we need to have purpose, and we need to be specific in what we want. Knowing our purpose propels us forward; it is what drives us. When we know our purpose, when we hold it in the forefront of our minds and close in our hearts, we will do what is necessary to prioritize. First things first; second things never. Here’s to making your dreams a reality.