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Let Love Lead

It’s a brand new day.

How will you approach it?

Will you go about mindlessly, bouncing busily between activities, not feeling that deeper sense of accomplishment?

Or, will you break out of that routine with a renewed sense of purpose?

It comes down to you.  You and only you.

Ask yourself if you are bringing the energy of fear or love into your life.  Which is it?

Do you find yourself wasting your days out of carelessness or laziness?  If so, this is a fear-based response to life (dig deep and you’ll discover that this carelessness or laziness comes from being afraid of things not working out, of being a failure, or of being successful).

Do you find yourself doing things that strip you of your personal power or make you feel miserable?  If so, this is another fear-based response (afraid of being rejected and not fitting in, so you do things to please others or to appear as someone you are not?).

Where there is fear there is no love.

Replacing a fear mindset with a love mindset requires a shift in personal thinking. It’s not always easy; it requires some work and patience, and once you get into the practice of it, your life will begin to change in unexpected, even miraculous ways.

Ask which fears are blocking out the presence of love. Step outside of yourself and take a long non-judgmental look at You. What scares you? What motivates you? How do you define yourself? Take an inventory of what you think, feel, and do.  What is the motivation behind your actions? Is it love or fear?

Once you have identified those fearful thoughts, deeds, and energy, it’s time to send the energy of love.  The energy we send out is the energy we will receive (this is a universal law…check it out for yourself).

You can do this in a number of ways.  You can repeat the word “love” as a mantra.  You can repeat an affirmation such as “I see all things with love,” or you can choose your own wording. You can also visualize waves of love emanating from your heart area or chakra while directing those waves toward specific situations or people.

Find a way that resonates with you and commit to it.  Approaching each day with love instead of fear will change the energy of your life path.

It’s a brand new day, and it’s your life.  Let love lead the way.


What’s Love Got To Do With It?

All you need is love, love.
Love is all you need.

So sing The Beatles.

Love is not something that we fall into; it is a spiritual practice.

Love is an art.

Love is action.

Love requires mastery.  We can get better at it over time.

We are instructed by the world’s religions and wisdom traditions to love self, to love our neighbors, and to love God. Love is the foundation.

Sometimes loving is easy, and sometimes it’s the hardest thing in the world to do.

I once had a seminary professor who said, “Some of you are going to be pissed off at who God lets into heaven.”


That’s how much God loves.

And we are challenged to love as greatly. Buddha said to revere our enemies as our parents. Jesus said to love our enemies.


What does that mean?

It means that what God creates, God loves, and loves unconditionally. It means that even though we feel it is our right to hate a person for his or her wrongful, “evil” actions, it is our duty to honor that person with love because the Divine that is within us also resides within that person. That person’s deepest self is as much the image of God as ours is.

Buddha nature. Jesushood. God-Self. Divine Essence. It’s all there inside of us. We are God’s love letters to ourselves and to each other.

It’s time to move beyond lip service and back up our convictions with the actions of love. What will you do to be a sign of love in the world?

Love Park, Philadelphia, PA…a favorite place to relax
when I worked in the city.


Think of someone in your life who gets on your last nerve. You know who it is…he or she may be impossible to please, constantly complains, or just exasperates you. Yeah, that one.

Now, instead of seeing this person as negative or impossible, hold him or her in the light, visualizing that person engulfed by Spirit’s love and presence. Repeat the mantra: Love, love, love. Breathe in love, exhale prayer. Continue this loving act until you begin to see the divine within him or her. Give gratitude for this transformation.


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Read the introduction of 31 Days of Spiritual Growth here, and find links to all posts in this series.

Seven Ways To Surprise A Woman

Gentlemen, this is addressed to you.

Taking care of your woman is a sacred act.

It requires thought, observation, and pure stealth.  Your goal is to catch her off guard.

Below are seven ways to surprise your woman.

1.  Listen to her. And listen intently. Women air their feelings by talking and venting. This does not mean for you to spring into action and solve everything. It means to listen. It means to look directly into her eyes and hear her words. Don’t let your mind wander. Don’t try to get her into bed. Don’t have an A.D.D. moment. Practice patience and you will see into her soul in ways you never expected. Listening to her is a show of respect and appreciation.

2.  Give an unexpected gift at an unexpected time. This is truly a key to her heart. It doesn’t have to be an expensive gift. Keep it simple, yet thoughtful, not, “Oh Honey, I bought you some antifreeze!” Plan a romantic weekend getaway (be sure to consult with her friends or employer so she has no excuses).

3.  Compliment her. Flattery will get you just about anywhere. Women love compliments. Find balance in giving them though.  Too many and she will think you are up to something. Not enough and she will think you’ve lost interest. Make compliments count.  Is she a great cook? Compliment her. Does she take good care of your children? Compliment her. Does she have a beautiful smile? Compliment her. Always look for things on which to compliment her. Avoid saying things like, “Wow, that dress doesn’t make you look as fat today!”

4.  Become a chore whore. Help her with tasks around the house. Cooking, cleaning, and laundering is time-consuming, especially after a long day of work or caring for the kids. If she’s showing signs of exhaustion or frustration, that’s a cue to step in and help.

5.  Go out for a night on the town. Take her to dinner at her favorite restaurant. Go see a show. Go dancing. Take a carriage ride.  Whisper sweetness in her ears. While men are more visually stimulated, women are aurally stimulated. Romance her the way you did when you first met.

6.  Do things she likes to do. Allow yourself to enjoy the experience. Do it with an open mind. Don’t worry about not appearing manly in front of your friends (if your friends are smart like you, they are doing these very things without your knowledge). Get a pedicure together. Go to the spa with her. Get a couple’s massage. Go shopping and be sure to compliment her on her choices. When you do the things she likes, chances are she will reciprocate by doing things you enjoy.

7.  Change your plans to be with her and only her. Take a night off occasionally from your manly activities with your man-friends to spend quality time with your woman. Of course, don’t tell her you are doing this in advance. Just do it. And be sure to turn off your phone so there will be no interruptions.

Guys, it really isn’t difficult to please your woman. She is not as complex as you’d like to believe. She wants love, she wants attention, she wants your help, she wants your friendship. She wants acknowledgment as your partner and lover. All the things she does, she does for you because she loves you.

And of all the things she wants, she just wants you.

Your comments are always welcome. In what ways do you surprise your partner? Please share.

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Do You Know Your Ancestry?

Life is in the air! 
That’s means love is in the air, too. 
You can’t have one without the other. 
The Universe is in the business of creating, and the whole business of creation comes from the energy of love.
Look at your existence. Where do you think you came from? You didn’t just spring from your mother’s loins. Yes, biologically, you were created when egg and sperm met and merged. But your existence is more than a biological event. Much, much more.

Let’s go through an interesting exercise. A part of you came from your mother, and a part of you came from your father. This means you existed in both of your parents before you were physically born. You existed in a different energy form in two different people.

Let’s take this a step further. Before you were born and before your parents were born, you and your parents existed in your parents’ parents (your grandparents to you).

Going further, before you were born, before your parents were born and before your grandparents were born, all of you existed inside your great-grandparents. See where this is going? And if you do the math, you have two parents, four grandparents, eight great-grandparents, sixteen great-great grandparents, thirty-two great-great-great grandparents, sixty-four great-great-great-great grandparents, and so on. That’s a lot of great-greats in your family tree, isn’t it?

Now, let this blow your mind. Consider all of your (ready?) great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great (yes, that’s 25 “greats”) grandparents. If you do the math, that’s 134,227,728 of them. Before you were born you were “scattered” energy, inside all of your ancestors. A piece of you existed in each one of them. All of this has filtered down to you. Pretty amazing stuff.

The Universe created all of those people in order to create you at this point in time. You’ve existed all this time through other beings. You came through all of those ancestors just to be here today. You are not some random biological event. The Universe had you in mind since the beginning, long before your physical incarnation. If the Universe didn’t love you, you would have never existed in the first place.

That’s a whole lot of loving that’s been done in your name. Wow. Mind definitely blown.


Jesus and The Law of Attraction

In the sacred text of the bible, the Gospel of Matthew 7:7-8 states: “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” In Mark 11:24, Jesus states: “Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.”
In these verses, we see the roots of the Law of Attraction. And Jesus knew how the principles worked, even if he didn’t have the scientific knowledge we have today.
One must remember that Christianity did not exist in Jesus’s time, and it certainly didn’t exist in the form as we know it today. Instead he laid out a set of principles regarding the manifestation of one’s reality and desires. He had access to special knowledge that he claimed we could have as well, if we opened ourselves to it. The Law of Attraction was around long before Jesus or any other avatars or master teachers knew of its power. Jesus knew the Law of Attraction as God. And he knew it as a loving God, not the wrathful God of the Old Testament.
What can we glean from these powerful verses about the Law of Attraction?
1.  Have a clear vision of what you desire to manifest. When you pray, meditate, visualize, or concentrate, you are deliberately releasing energy into the Universe toward God, your Higher Power, the Infinite Intelligence, Source, etc. The emotion, or conviction, in your words/images sends out a vibration, or a frequency, like a radio signal that gets picked up. If in harmony with the Universe, those desires manifest.  Believing equals receiving. Whatever you desire, know (believe) that you have it. The Universe always provides.
2.  Have faith, not doubt. Faith, being the essence of things not seen, is a force of positive energy that releases whenever we pray, meditate, or visualize. Doubt is rooted in fear and will negate any of your efforts to manifest your desires. Having faith in God’s power/Universe/Source will bring about particular results as Jesus emphasized. Jesus never told people that his faith had healed or restored them, but rather that their own faith had made them whole. The power of their own minds was key. You become a magnet of energy once you establish an inner conviction that the law works.
3.  Take control. Jesus speaks in the imperative in these verses. He says, “Ask,” “Seek,” “Knock,” “Believe.”  In other words, you ask, you seek, you knock, you believe. You are in control of co-creating your reality with your Higher Source. These are not passive words; they are words of action. Jesus is telling us that when we act, God/Universe acts in accordance with our desires when we are aligned in harmony for the highest good.
Jesus served as a spiritual beacon. He lived in tune with his purpose for which he had been incarnated. He may not have known the Law of Attraction as the Law of Attraction, but he knew how it worked and he knew it as the power of God. Having faith and believing are acts of love and positive energy. He knew that having a clear vision coupled with faith and magnetized by prayer, thought, meditation, and/or visualization attracted results, and he came to teach us that we, too, have access to the same power that he did.

Love, Creation, and the Universe

When you love something — another person, a place, an animal, a thing, yourself — you are loving the Universe in that form.

Everything around us is worthy of love because everything was, and is, created out of love. At any given moment the Universe is expanding, meaning that it is continually birthing and rebirthing itself through us and through the things around us. It’s the energy of love that makes the Universe expand. This is the power of creation.

The Universe is truly magical.

Look around. There’s a whole lot of loving to be done.

A Spiritual Approach To Illness

Jesus’s admonition to “love your neighbor as yourself” not only applies to the people around us but to any thing close to us.

What about illness?  Dis-ease?  Afflictions? Are these not our closest neighbors at times? As much as we try to eat healthy and try to maintain ourselves through exercise, sometimes the immune system breaks down and is overcome by bacterial or viral invaders. When illness becomes our closest neighbor, it is closer than any family member or friend.

So, how does one treat illness as a neighbor?

In the Orient, the body is viewed as a finely balanced unity of interdependent parts. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Our body is a living entity made of mind, body, and spirit. There is no separation; all three are one. Each part blends harmoniously with the rest of the body. When one part is out of alignment, the rest of the parts do not function as optimally as they should. What can be done to get back into alignment?

We can take a spiritual attitude toward illness. When we do, we make friends with it.  Instead of becoming adversarial toward it, treat it as a part of your being.  Seek to cooperate with it.  Pain is the body’s way of telling us that it needs love and attention to become whole again so that it can work harmoniously with the rest of the body.  If we hate it, it will hate us back, bringing more pain and suffering.  Many times, working with an illness rather than against it leads us to a change of heart.  We begin to see it as a messenger rather than an enemy that has come calling about some kind of imbalance that needs to be integrated back into our lives.  Integrating it means accepting it and approaching it with a loving attitude. Since the body, mind, and spirit harmonize as one, illnesses can lead us to discover that most of the causes stem from some kind of emotional upset, imbalance, or trauma.

For example, maybe you contracted (attracted) a sore throat. Instead of hating it, try visualizing light around your throat area. Tell your throat you are grateful for its function in your body. It allows air to pass through to your lungs. It allows food to travel into your stomach. It allows you to communicate. Tell your throat you love it and see it in your mind’s eye as healthy instead of inflamed. Thank your throat for its message and tell it that it’s time for the soreness to go to the light for healing and transformation. Note any “messages” that you may hear.  Since the throat represents communication, maybe there is something that you need to express but haven’t, either to yourself or to someone else. Illnesses allow us to reflect on our lives. When we are honest in our reflection, we find the emotional cause behind the illness and the emotional healing that comes. As we release it in love, healing will occur much more quickly than if we continually focus on the pain.

Does this mean not to go to the doctor?  No.  Sometimes a doctor’s advice and medication are needed. And we have the choice to participate in our own healing, or not.

Illness is a powerful teacher. Nothing gets our attention quite like it.  As we cooperate with it and work on integrating balance back into our lives lovingly, we take control of the healing process in a powerful way.