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Getting A Holiday Rush

helping hand The holiday season is upon us, and so are the stresses that come with it.  All the shopping, crowding, and lack of parking can test our patience and sanity.  Attitudes flare and tempers explode, leaving us caught in a whirlwind of frenetic energy.

What happened to goodwill toward others?

The holidays can bring out the worst in us.

To live harmoniously, we need to be supportive and helpful to others, especially during this time of year when everything is rushed and hectic.

Instead of feeling rushed, we can create a new kind of rush, one that promotes the goodwill that is needed.

Instead of getting caught up in the mob scene of the holidays, why not give the gift of you?

While being of service is part of being a good citizen, it also feels good to help others, especially when we do it without any expectation of anything in return.

Our actions become offerings of love.

However, many times we serve because we were taught that we should serve. We do it to gain good standing in our church or our community. In this sense, we are really only serving ourselves. This kind of serving has no heart.

True serving is much more than meeting the requirements of a community, church, or school project; it is selfless and motivated from a deeper space within us.

There are many ways to be of service, and one may serve in various ways before discovering which area or areas resonate the most and are the most heartfelt. There are the obvious and much-needed volunteer opportunities, such as feeding the homeless or mentoring young people.

But there are other opportunities that we may not even think of as being an act of service.

Running errands for those who aren’t able to run them, organizing a group activity like a walking or hiking club, leaving anonymous inspirational notes in neighborhood mailboxes are all simple ways of being of service.

Ask what you can do to brighten the lives of others, especially during this holiday season when many people are experiencing frustration.

Your actions will make a big difference and can be the greatest gift of all.

Seven Ways To Become A More Generous Person

In yesterday’s blog, I wrote about receiving generosity. I summed it up by saying that generosity is more than just a decision; it’s a lifestyle, especially when we approach it without any fear, without any thoughts of unworthiness, and without any reluctance. It is a spiritual quality.

Most people want to be generous. It’s in our nature.

A truly giving person does so out of desire, not out of duty. Gifts of duty are ego-based and are not of the heart; they are conditional and subject to entitlement. The generous person never expects anything in return; they give because they believe in investing in someone’s happiness.

How can you become a more generous person? Let me count the ways…

  • Set the intention to be generous. Make the conscious choice to be generous on a daily basis.
  • Start small. One does not have to be wealthy to be generous. And one does not always have to give money to be generous. You can be generous by giving things you can make. You can also volunteer your time, your compassion, or your expertise in a certain field.
  • Notice the things you could do to make someone else’s life a little easier and happier. Develop an awareness of what other’s may need.
  • Think of specific ways in which you can help the people you know, and then do them without expectation. Be sure to tell them to give forward, not back.
  • Let your generosity branch out to strangers. Hold open that door at the store. Pay the toll for the person behind you. Compliment someone you don’t know. 
  • Serve a cause that is greater than your own life. You can help fund it, or you can offer your time and energy.
  • Let your gratitude lead to generosity. Be grateful for the things you have. As you experience generosity in your own life, you’ll find yourself becoming more generous to others. 
Being generous is not difficult. Practicing generosity is an intentional, conscious decision we make in our lives, not out of duty, but out of love. The generous person is one who believes in the unlimited abundance of the Universe, finds success in helping others succeed, and believes changing even one life is worthwhile.
The generous person gives because s/he is a reflection of the Universe. As we grow in generosity, so does the Universe as it expands through us. All it wants to do is give because all it can do is give. Let’s give our thanks for such love, and let’s start giving. 
What will you do to foster generosity? Please share your comments below; they are always welcome.

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