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Live Inside Out

What others think of you is not important.  Whether they are messages of praise or of disfavor, such words do not define you. It’s crucial to remain independent of the opinions of other people.

Seeking the favor of others is degrading.  Once you seek favor, you fight to remain in favor.  And once you fall into disfavor, you’re broken.  This is what happens when we chase the external, those illusions (perceptions) crafted by others of what should or should not be.

When we make others’ assessments–whether good or bad–more important than our own, we enslave ourselves to their ideals, not ours.  What does this mean for you? It means that someone else’s opinion is directing your life.  When you find yourself in disfavor, you push harder to prove others wrong, hoping to change their minds, not realizing that you’re still being directed by forces outside of yourself.  It’s a vicious cycle of slavery.

Your worldly self IS NOT your true identity. We each have a basic nature that is uniquely ours.  When we trust that basic nature (our Inner Guidance System, Intuition, Higher Self, God/Goddess, etc.), we remain true to ourselves.  Will this be without challenges?  Of course not.  But when we remain centered in who we are, we can face those challenges head-on with confidence.

Trust your Inner Nature.  Honor it with an independent mind.  Respect your vision for yourself. Work at living one day at a time in harmony with your own nature, and the struggle to engage life as if it depended on external approval will loosen the shackles.

Is It Selfish To Manifest Your Desires?

Is it selfish to manifest your desires?


We are beings who want things in life. We want love, peace, happiness, joy, freedom, and satisfaction to name a few. We also want material things like a car, a home, and financial security, among other things. There’s nothing wrong in wanting these things.

Unfortunately, there are beliefs entrenched in the mass consciousness that life is serious business, that life is about hard work and learning tough lessons, that life is about sacrifice. Ugh. What’s the point of living if you can’t enjoy it?

I used to believe this way. And I found that life was difficult and full of lessons I didn’t like learning. I had sacrificed so much that I completely forgot about my needs. I didn’t like who I was, and I certainly wasn’t any fun to be around. I didn’t have time to enjoy what life was offering because I was too busy taking care of other people’s needs and sacrificing my own.  I was miserable.

And then I evolved.

I finally acknowledged that I wanted a wholly different experience. I gave myself permission to want my own happiness and to experience my own joy.  That conscious decision to allow myself to want to fulfill my desires opened the doors to multiple possibilities. I held the key to the candy store the whole time when I thought I was locked out for good.

Our desires are not selfish. They are divine impulses calling us forward on the evolutionary path of growth, creativity, and self-expression. Our desires mature; they evolve as we do. We learn to distinguish between desires of the ego (proving ourselves) and desires to express ourselves creatively (fulfilling ourselves). Reaching this point of evolution, though, will not happen if we label all desires as selfish.

We are here to manifest our desires. When we honor our desires, we honor Spirit/God/Universe. This leads us to our deepest fulfillment. Anything done in love is not selfish. After all, the Universe manifested you.