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Why Does This Keep Happening?

Do you find yourself having the same kinds of experiences?  Call it déjà vu.  Call it Groundhog’s Day.  Call it what you will.  But there’s a reason why these things keep happening to you.

Perhaps you are in a new romantic relationship, only it starts to feel like the last one with the same kinds of problems cropping up.

Or maybe your new job has you facing similar challenges that you thought you had escaped from your previous position.

The situations and the people may have changed, but you’re still dealing with the same old problems.  Over and over.

You may be feeling frustrated or disappointed, wondering why these same situations keep happening.

They happen because you — yes, you — are making them happen.

Our lives tend to reflect what we believe about them.  Our beliefs act like magnets, attracting situations into our lives based on those beliefs.  We create our experiences.  And each time we ask ourselves why the same things keep happening, we reinforce those beliefs and attract more of the same.

When we hold beliefs that undermine the good we can experience, we set ourselves up for sabotage.  It’s an unhealthy pattern that we repeat, not realizing that we are the ones creating the experience in the first place.  It can be a vicious cycle.

We bring our beliefs to every situation.  If the same kinds of situations and people keep showing up in our lives, we need to examine our beliefs and how we came to them.

Ask why you believe what you believe.  Were your beliefs passed down to you?  Or did you come to them based on your own experiences? How have they served you?  If they are not in your best interest, why keep hanging on to them?

No one wants to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over.  When we can figure out which convictions no longer serve us, we can consciously change them.  As we make better choices for ourselves, we start attracting new kinds of experiences that are aligned with what we truly want in life.

In what area of your life do you find the same kinds of things happening?

Embracing YOUR Choices

In his book, A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle says, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.

In other words, what’s happening to you in this exact moment is happening because it is happening. You’ve evolved to this exact point in time. This experience is a culmination of your thinking, of your feeling, and it is now manifesting before your very eyes.
So, how are you to approach such a moment?
Embrace it. 
Embrace it because this the experience you need to grow, to create, to express yourself fully, and to become whole.
How you approach this moment depends on only you. You have the power to make it work for you…or against you. It’s your choice.  It’s always been your choice.
Fighting the experience won’t make it go away. Resistance is like a virus — it comes back stronger than ever, until you inoculate it by embracing and facing the experience — by opening up to it and asking it what it has to teach you so that you can start making new (and more informed) choices. 
A “new earth” starts with a “new mind.”
What kind of world are you creating for yourself?  What kind of world would you like to create?
(If you haven’t read Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, click here for the full downloadable text).