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Increasing Your Energetic Wealth

Energy is like money.
Like money, energy can be squandered or invested.
When you have an abundance of energy, it’s wise to invest it into things that will improve your life. Make your energy work for you, not against you. 
What does this mean?
It means doing those things that make you feel good about yourself. Things that you enjoy doing. Things that raise your spirits, feed your soul, and increase your vibration. Things that propel you to grow, to create, and to express your authentic self. 
But squandering your energy puts you at risk.
Energy that is not channeled constructively or positively leads to boredom, apathy, complacency, dependence, even bondage. You find yourself doing things that you don’t like doing or don’t want to be doing. You find yourself obligated to others rather than to yourself. Things begin piling up on you, adding stress, which then manifest physically in the form of various ailments or illnesses. You don’t feel good about yourself or your place in life. Now you are left with no energy whatsoever; you’ve depleted yourself and your reserves. This is a major energy deficit.
What’s the point of living?
But you can change this.
Investing energy into yourself, rather than squandering it aimlessly on things that no longer serve you (or have never served you), allows for a shift in vibration that moves you to start doing the things you enjoy. It begins by taking back your control and making choices that empower you. One small shift gets the ball rolling. 
Energy is designed to move, not stagnate. 
It is designed to flow freely, without blockage. 
Start small. Choose an area of your life or something about yourself that you’d like to improve. Ask yourself what kind of investment you are willing to make to improve that area of your life. Commit to it by signing a contract with yourself or by creating a vision board.  Remind yourself about your goal on a daily basis. Give it the energy it deserves to grow and manifest. Before you know it, a wealth of energy and assistance will make itself known to you in ways you’ve never imagined. Such is the Spirit of Attraction and Abundance.
You are worth the investment. 
How are you investing in yourself these days? Or, how will you? I invite you to share your energy investing techniques with us. 

Fear’s Worst Enemy

Yesterday I shared an experience that illustrated how fear can get the best of us (see “Things That Go Grunt In The Night”). While it turned out to be a funny (and wet!) situation, the fear seemed very real as my imagination ran wild.

Fear, or as my friend and Life Coach Kathy Hadley reminds people, is nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real. And she’s right. Fear is nothing more than an illusion.

And it can be one of the biggest challenges we experience.

How many times have you been afraid to try something new?  Or afraid to change something, even though your current methods weren’t working?

If you are like most, when fear strikes, you may experience physical symptoms, such as rapid heart rate, shortness of breath, paralysis or immobilization, elevated blood pressure, increased perspiration, tense and energized muscles, hives or skin rashes, just to name a few. This stresses the body, so to combat it, the body releases stress hormones, like cortisol, into your bloodstream. If the body is stressed over a period of time, severe conditions may occur, if not treated.

So, why do we let it get the best of us?

Fear is often based in a lack of knowledge or understanding. Not knowing the outcome of a situation leaves us to our imaginations. When we don’t know or understand something, we assume. Many times those assumptions trick us into thinking the worst. The survival part of us wants to know exactly what is going to happen; it wants guarantees and safety. This lack of knowledge fans the flames of our fears, and suddenly we have a fiery monster breathing in our direction.

But fear has an enemy. The kryptonite of knowledge.

Rather than react to your fear, you can take a proactive approach by arming yourself with knowledge. Just becoming informed about that which scares you can shift everything. The “unknown” now becomes the known.

True, some fears may be deeper rooted and much more complex than anticipated; these may take more time to address and may require the help of a life coach/professional.  But oftentimes, our fears will vanish simply by learning more about the things we are avoiding.

Knowledge is our ally against fear. The next time you find yourself feeling great resistance toward something, take a deep breath, get out the kryptonite and inform yourself, and then poof! That monster of fear dissipates into a puff of smoke, and you become your own superhero.

In what ways do you use your superpowers to conquer fear? Please share below.

Excuses

Excuses. We have all made them at one time or another. Some people are more gifted than others in this department. Are you or do you know someone who breaks promises, places blame on others, or does not take responsibility for personal behavior? Always procrastinating? Never on time? Known for missing appointments? And then offers up a million and one excuses? No one wants to count on someone who is not accountable.

According to the dictionary, making an excuse means “to explain a fault or an offense in the hope of being forgiven or understood.”

Excuses are comfortable lies we tell ourselves so that we can avoid responsibility. They are cleverly engineered traps. And we fall into them regularly.

Chronic excuse-makers are nothing more than habitual liars, not only to others, but to themselves.

Making excuses can have a detrimental effect on your reputation, your life, your career, and your relationships. The more excuses you make the more likely you will be labeled as undependable, defensive, or paranoid. People will begin to lose respect, especially if they can’t trust you.

For many years, I worked with someone who habitually missed appointments that he himself scheduled. Staff members would show up at his office only to be told to wait. And wait. And wait. He was a no-show ninety-five percent of the time. The other ten percent of the time, he’d show up late only to reschedule the appointment, and he’d pull the no-show act again. This frustrated people because he disrespected their time and worth. There were times when we actually conducted committee meetings without him, even though he organized them! Then he’d make his grand entrance with his grand excuses as if he were the only one with a busy schedule. One time he emailed me to meet with him. I purposely did not show because of his track record. When I ran into him a few days later, he apologized for not making it to the meeting, to which I replied, “Neither did I.” Do unto others…

He wasn’t too pleased, but he got the point.

Did it change him? No. He’s still the same even though a number of people have confronted him on the issue.

If you find yourself constantly making excuses for your behavior, it’s time to change, and the solution lies within your control.

First, confront yourself. Admit that you make excuses. Take a long, hard look at your excuse-making behavior and resolve to change it. It’s not going to resolve itself until you take positive, corrective action.

Second, develop a plan of corrective action for yourself. For each offense that you have committed, write down what you can do to correct it. For example, if you are typically a late-arriver, be courteous and let people know your status so they are not left wondering and stewing. If someone tells you to be somewhere at 10 a.m., write it down for 9:30 a.m. Have a friend witness your plan of action to hold you accountable.

Third, take the heat without blame. Learn to apologize without giving a dissertation of an explanation. Take ownership of your behavior. Of course, don’t let habitual fault-finders try to undermine your confidence as you reinvent your attitude.

Fourth, quit with the complaints. Complaining isn’t going to get you out of the mess you’ve created. Taking responsibility will.

Fifth, find solutions instead of creative justifications. Set up a system to remind you of important tasks, meetings, and get-togethers.

Sixth, ask for help. Put your faith in a higher power that will guide you. Doing self-work is not always easy. Surround yourself with a support system.  If you need professional help, seek it by all means, especially if it means saving your relationships.


Taking the steps to confront excuse-making opens up a door to a new you as you reinvent yourself.  When you put a personal plan in place to help you remain accountable, you’ll find your life changing for the better.